Being a Bachelor (EP17)
Bros come, you need to be taken care of
You don’t even need to think deeply or look too critically for any evidence. A lot of dudes don’t take care of themselves and this goes beyond having the financial wherewithal to do so, although that’s important lots of folks just don’t care.
An average guy works tirelessly to save money while anticipating some type of billing from God knows where. Now when I say take care of yourself I’m not speaking to the lavish fantasies you have in your head, although it’s slightly part of it.
You’ll rarely see a young guy who uses body cream, the highest is probably rub something on his hair, uses one perfume and probably a roll-on and he’s good to go for the day. If you ask, my guy will say “there’s no time” or “I hate cream” etc. Actually what he lacks is availability, when he sees it he’ll use it. Don’t forget, the problem is never affordability, he just doesn’t see it as a necessity. But brother your body needs it.
Strolling back from work on Friday evenings, I buy this very big bread and that’s my meal for the weekend. It used to be noodles until I switched alliance. This food/cooking dilemma faced by lots of guys has a lot of factors attached to it and money is at the bottom of that pyramid. Sometimes when I calculate the money spent on petty foods it’s way more than what a decent meal will cost.
So the problem is we underestimate our needs, use peanuts, small chops and soft drink to subside it, you think 5h or1k is too much to spend on one plate but the body wants what it wants so hunger comes knocking and just like a car whose tyre is about to be changed you shock your stomach again with another set of “ijekuje”, the cycle goes on and on and you never really feel satisfied.
Also, a lot of time we think certain things are too luxurious, the very high billing we attach to them makes it another item in our fantasy bucket list. I’m sure most of the thoughts, wishes and fantasies we would be considered premium end up being very basic once tried. For a very long time, I’ve craved a massage, but for some reasons, I still don’t know I’m yet to have one and once again, money isn’t part of it.
It’s time you start thinking beyond survival, after all, you’ve been doing that all your life and you still haven’t broken even yet.
You have to be very deliberate about it, some days I don’t listen to that voice that says eat small, eat small, I go out and satisfy my cravings. You have to learn to do the same. Sincerely, you need to stay happy with yourself, the little things you keep depriving yourself will keep you farther in touch with yourself, don’t feel bad for wanting to enjoy life, enjoy it. Spend your money but please don’t do yahoo yahoo.
Don’t think survival alone, get comfortable with living up to the taste or finesse you have stored up in your head. Fresh skin isn’t meant for women alone, neither is rubbing cream.
These things aren’t luxury, actually, they are basic.
