Being a Bachelor (Ep 11)
It’s a big one, I must say.
I had a chat with a friend of mine yesterday, and one of the things we both agreed on was that ‘we were clearly not ready for the real world’, all the ‘life hack’ advice from folks before us were traps, big traps and those little achievements at the time succeeded in adding a little weight to our ego. If you wish you were still a student or probably earning NYSC’s 33k now then you share the same thoughts as my friend and I.
Honestly, I have always been eager to be here, especially the part where I make life decisions without any interruption or influence from anyone. Shebi, I have all the home training and personal development, then I can qualify as a good family ambassador without soiling the name of my generation. Pep talk! All of it.
Now, what’s the point? Slow down! Nobody lied to you, it’s all part of the process (without sounding cliche).
If you ask me, I still don’t think the real world starts when you’re done with all the phases where you wear a graduation gown for, or when plenty rice and jotters are customized with your soon to become “what the heck” pictures. It’s just different times requiring different measures and different challenges requiring different methods.
The only thing that prepares you for then is choosing to live through the tides, growing and living life now for good throwback moments for few years to come, sometimes the only motivation you’ll get are from your past successes, the little forceful smile you made for a photo and a few other things you might be considering irrelevant now.
Why bother about the real world when that world actually needs your current world to make meaning. Now is the spice for then and since now is all we’ve got, it’s greater than then. So please live now and forget about growing up, nature organically makes that happen, you’ve got no choice bro! The worries of now are sufficiently consuming already, beg let’s face it.
Are you currently trapped in a hole to man up? alright you should, but don’t get caught up in circles, it’s worse to be a “wannabe”. Is that relationship demanding an OBO kinda spending which you can’t afford? Amend it or ghost the person. They will understand later if they ever get to start making their own money if they don’t live on.
Don’t be afraid of being a villain in some people’s script if it’s necessary to peacefully keep your life going on. This is my most recent lesson, you see some people’s energy will never match yours, put in all the work and they’ll regard you as being too extra or without human feelings, yes it’s possible you are, but there’s nothing bad in being crazily ambitious and if you are unto a good cause, wave at them and move on even when you feel you can’t do without them. Life doesn’t revolve around one person.
Chasing tomorrow should not deprive you of today if that’s what to man up as been describe to you please trash it. Crawl, be a baby, feel the moment and refuse to grow. it’s better to connect with the child in you than the adult you are not.
You don’t agree with me? please tell me why in the comment section and if you do, I’ll like to read a message from you too.
Aseyori.
